Do we actually trust honesty!
Rationally speaking, the answer is subjective and varies from person to person, depending on the upbringing, past experiences, and the person's other karma. But what can we infer using facts?
Let's first classify honesty into two parts for better understanding, say external and internal honesty.
External honesty in when other people are involved and internal honesty when we are dealing with the self. This does not mean that they are independent of each other, in fact, then go very much hand in hand. In this blog, we will mostly be work with internal honesty for the purpose of self-inquiry.
Children watch adults engage in lying, deceit all kinds of dishonest behavior, which they absorb. Their school tells them stories about why they should be honest, but they already start having their doubts at that time.
While growing up, we go through various episodes where lies get sold to us along with some elements of truth. When we face reality our trust gets broken. We feel cheated and lose hope in everything we bought, which includes the partial truth. Our society provides us with many such encounters where we fell like we have lost our innocence and our trust in external honesty.
Similarly, we go through episodes where we want certain things and we build expectations with ourselves, which are sometimes unrealistic. When we are not able to get what we want, we feel cheated. We lose our trust in ourselves along with trust in internal honesty, which is inbuilt naturally.
Losing external honesty results in a lack of confidence while dealing with other people, while losing internal honesty results in a lack of confidence in dealing with the self. We all know that this has harmful consequences. Hence, we must make the effort to regain our internal honesty. We need not worry about external honesty as it is easier to control ourself rather than controlling other people.
Let's first classify honesty into two parts for better understanding, say external and internal honesty.
External honesty in when other people are involved and internal honesty when we are dealing with the self. This does not mean that they are independent of each other, in fact, then go very much hand in hand. In this blog, we will mostly be work with internal honesty for the purpose of self-inquiry.
Children watch adults engage in lying, deceit all kinds of dishonest behavior, which they absorb. Their school tells them stories about why they should be honest, but they already start having their doubts at that time.
While growing up, we go through various episodes where lies get sold to us along with some elements of truth. When we face reality our trust gets broken. We feel cheated and lose hope in everything we bought, which includes the partial truth. Our society provides us with many such encounters where we fell like we have lost our innocence and our trust in external honesty.
Similarly, we go through episodes where we want certain things and we build expectations with ourselves, which are sometimes unrealistic. When we are not able to get what we want, we feel cheated. We lose our trust in ourselves along with trust in internal honesty, which is inbuilt naturally.
Losing external honesty results in a lack of confidence while dealing with other people, while losing internal honesty results in a lack of confidence in dealing with the self. We all know that this has harmful consequences. Hence, we must make the effort to regain our internal honesty. We need not worry about external honesty as it is easier to control ourself rather than controlling other people.
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